Wednesday, May 23, 2018

Royal Training Day

How about this for commitment? Two members of our staff, Sarah and Linzi, were delivering Domestic Abuse Awareness Training during last Saturday's Royal Wedding. This training was specially requested to be run on a Saturday as it was delivered to childcare workers who are busy during the week. Despite how beautiful the weather was, and all the fun they were missing out on, Sarah and Linzi ensured the training was fun and informative. Never ones to let people miss out, they donned these disguises to bring a royal air to the day.

The team also offer a  FREE one day professional training course every month which  includes an introduction to domestic abuse, recognizing the signs, the dynamics of an abusive relationship, how to seek help and sharing best practice.

If you would like to find out more about this training or our other available training please contact us on 01495291202 or email You can also message us on Facebook or find further information on our website 

Thursday, May 17, 2018

Garfield Weston Anniversary

Phoenix DAS were extremely honoured this month to receive an invitation from His Royal Highness The Prince of Wales to a very special celebration held at Buckingham Palace. The reception was to mark the 60th anniversary of the Garfield Weston Foundation who are one of the funders of our work. The Foundation was established in 1958 by Garfield Weston who endowed it with 80% shares in the family business with the aim of benefiting the nation. The foundation has supported a wide range of projects covering areas such as the arts, the environment, education, health, science, and many projects directly supporting our communities. We are extremely lucky to have received a contribution from the foundation towards our core funding which allows us the security to continue delivering services where they are needed most. The reception was attended by Cath James (CEO) and William Davies (Chairman) and was a truly memorable event. It was a great chance to meet representatives of the foundation as well as to talk to people from a wide variety of other projects. This was, of course, made even more exciting as it took place in such a grand venue and included some wonderful canapes and champagne. We would like to send a massive thank you to all at the Garfield Weston Foundation for the invite and for the support they give us, and of course to HRH The Prince of Wales and all the staff at the Palace for hosting this special occasion.

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

What is a Success?

Phoenix Domestic Abuse Services receives over 600 referrals each year and of these engages with around 200 victims of domestic abuse, 50 perpetrators and 35 young people.  Each individual has a unique story and our work is person centred and adapted to meet those individual needs.
The following is a typical story of a couple who have worked with the service.
Diane and Jack had been together for a few months when the police first attended.  Diane had called the police and reported that violence and threats had been used. During the next 12 months there were 10 incidents where the police attended and completed a risk assessment form.  On 3 of these occasions Diane gave consent for a referral to be made to Phoenix DAS.  A number of these incidents were classified as High Risk and agencies were trying to engage both Diane and Jack. 
A referral was also made to Phoenix DAS from Social Services.  These referrals resulting in Phoenix DAS attempting to contact Dianne on 4 occasions.  Diane later admitted that she was not ready to even think that her relationship was abusive, let alone do anything about it.  Diane did agree to an initial appointment but did not attend.
This ‘non engagement’ can be typical when a victim of domestic abuse first comes into contact with support agencies and Phoenix DAS is able to use a flexible and creative approach when making contact and engaging with victims.  Very often needing to ‘leave the door open’ for future contact.
Diane and Jack’s first child was born during this time and Diane began to engage on a one to one basis. She had an initial appointment with a safety worker (IDVA) where a full support and safety plan was completed along with a risk assessment.  With a lot of encouragement and support Diane then began to attend The Knowledge Programme.
The Knowledge Programme is a 10 week programme designed and developed by Phoenix DAS and delivered twice weekly in Phoenix House.  It can help participants understand and define domestic abuse, how it has affected them and recognise their power and choices.  It covers Power & Control, Isolation, the Effects on Children, Threats and Intimidation, Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse and Sexual Abuse.
18 months after first meeting and despite claiming that they were no longer in a relationship Diane disclosed that she was pregnant with their second child. Social Services became involved, the children were placed on the child protection register and eventually placed in foster care.  Diane and Jack’s relationship was very much on and off.  However a referral was made for Jack to the Perpetrator Programme and they both were now engaging with Phoenix DAS.
The Phoenix Respect Programme has been accredited by RESPECT (a nationally recognised accreditation body for the purposes of domestic abuse perpetrator work) to meeting a safe minimum safety standard of practice in regards to its perpetrator intervention work.
The Phoenix Respect Programme is voluntary and is designed for people who are ready to make changes. Participants will benefit from 24 core group work sessions and additional one to one support sessions.  Participants consider key themes including Victim Awareness, Accountability and Honesty, Respect, Thinking & Behaviour, Consequential Thinking, Communications Skills, Partnership, Emotional Control and Healthy Relationships
Over the next 6 months both Diane and Jack continued to engage with one to one support and group programmes.  They also both completed parenting assessments with Social Services.
The rehabilitation of the children back into their care began. Jack completed the Perpetrator Programme and the children were back with Diane and Jack 9 months after being removed.
The couple took the decision to separate permanently and safely 6 months later with Diane having full time custody of the children and Jack having regular access.  This was very different from previous separations in that it was managed safely and there was a complete lack of harassment and continued abuse that had been present previously.  Jack and Diane were able to vocalise this to professionals and both felt emotionally able to be independent parents to their children.
We at Phoenix DAS consider this a successful result for the whole family and in line with our service outcomes of reducing risk of harm to victims and families in their current and future relationships.  For both Diane and Jack there is also improved sense of wellbeing and resilience and they have an increased knowledge and understanding of domestic abuse and healthy relationships.
By this time Diane had also completed all programmes and her case was closed with the service. Phoenix Domestic Abuse Service has continued to have some contact with Diane sporadically and have recently checked in to see how things are and what impact the work undertaken had with her. An annual review form was completed and Diane said she is doing really well and her final comment was…
“Jack got a lot out of the perpetrator programme and our relationship is friendly, although we are not together it is significantly better”

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

Facilitator Training

There are spaces available on our Facilitator Training due to take place in October. If you are interested please see the poster below for further details or contact us on

Monday, April 23, 2018

Meet Sarah

Sarah joined the service in 2007 as Programme Officer. Sarah is now the Deputy CEO and Programme Manager with responsibility for developing and delivering groups for victims of domestic abuse as well as the delivery of professional training. 
Sarah supports Cath James CEO, in developing strategies, goals, policies and objectives for consideration and implementation by the Phoenix DAS Board of Trustees. 
During her time with the service Sarah has been instrumental in developing a full set of innovative programmes for victims which are currently being fully evaluated in line with the services commitment to research and development. 
Sarah is a very experienced trainer and facilitator and previously worked for a large financial institution for over 20 years gaining vast experience in training and facilitation skills. Sarah has qualifications in management, social policy and criminology. 

Wednesday, April 18, 2018


Unless you have been living in a cave this week you have probably read something about  Jordan Worth, who last week became the first woman in Britain to be convicted under the new ‘controlling or coercive behaviour in an intimate relationship’ law introduced in 2015. She was sentenced to seven and half years in custody for this and other offences against her boyfriend Alex Skeel and it has been the subject of much discussion on facebook and in the media.  There have been many references to her ‘petite’ size, charity work and the fact that the victim ‘Alex Skeel’ himself has hydrocephalus, a condition which makes him especially vulnerable to head injuries.  There is mention of his horrific injuries, I believe he had 118 when he left, and the many times his neighbours heard his cries for help and saw his black eyes. We have read about the fact that she scolded him with boiling water and did not allow him to sleep in the same bed as her. There is less mention though of the fact that he was denied contact with his own family for a long time and virtually nothing of the two children who were probably one of the main reasons he didn’t leave earlier.  Now I ask you ‘SO WHAT?’
I have read lots of comments from people praising his bravery for firstly leaving Jordan and reporting these crimes to the police, then secondly, for waiving his anonymity in an attempt to raise the profile of domestic abuse and particularly the plight of male victims.  I have read many comments, and even arguments, about whether men are treated fairly and how women only have to say they have been hit and police believe them.
I think throughout all of this many people are missing the point.  NOBODY should be subjected to abuse, anywhere, but definitely not within their home. This is the one place that they should feel safe. NOBODY should live in fear of upsetting their partner, feeling cut off from those who may offer support and salvation. NO CHILDREN should grow up in an environment where they can’t sleep because they are worried about what is going on in the next room , or live in the constant tension that exists in a home where domestic abuse is going on.  Although there are differences between male and female victims, to get caught up in the gender argument is, I believe, missing the most valuable lesson for the story. WHO IS RESPONSIBLE?
Now don’t get me wrong, Jordan, as the perpetrator of the violence and abuse, is completely responsible for the pain and emotional harm she subjected her boyfriend and children to, but who else?  What about Alex himself? Is he to blame for staying? Unfortunately in our society we often do blame victims for their own abuse, asking why did they stay? Needing the excuses of his vulnerabilities to explain how a ‘petite’ women could inflict harm on a man.  What about medical services who had seen him on previous occasions, and did not step in, I understand that support was offered but he denied any problem. His family then, why didn’t they step in? Would you allow a family member to suffer abuse without rescuing them? What about social services? Shouldn’t they have helped those poor children? Who else? The School? The Neighbours? The Police? What if the outcome hadn’t been as positive?
There were 454 Domestic Homicides recorded by the police in England and Wales between April 2013 and March 2016 (source Office for national statistics). This represents 31% of all homicides where the victim was aged 16 and over during this time period. Of these 70% (319) were female and 30% (135) male. These are surely shocking figures to anyone. Despite this we only talk about a small amount of these cases, the ones that stick out as different, but every one of them had family, friends, neighbours, and many had children.
So who cares? We all should! I believe that until we start breaking the silence and start talking about domestic abuse, things will not change. Responsibility sits with everyone to stop ignoring the signs, ask the questions, call the police, report concerns to social services but most of all to listen. Let’s be clear most victims don’t want to be rescued, they want to be heard and we need to start listening. We have come a long way in the last 20 years, but can you honestly say that you would call the police if you were worried about a neighbour, a friend or a family member, or would you think it’s not your place to get involved?  Alex’s neighbours have been publicly thanked by his mother and praised for helping to save him, would you do the same? Change is everyone’s responsibility so we ask you to join our campaign to ‘end the public camouflage of domestic abuse’

Tuesday, April 17, 2018

Training - Youth Team

Our Youth team are available to provide training in many areas related to working with children, young people and families.
Children and young people do not need to see an abusive incident taking place for abuse to have an impact. They may overhear the incident or see the aftermath.
However they experience it, domestic abuse in the family home has a huge impact on the children.
Understanding the Effects of Domestic Abuse on Children and Young People
This course is available regularly (please see the Training Dates article within the newsletter) and includes the following
  • Improves understanding of the effects of domestic abuse on children and young people.
  • Considers the impact on children of various ages.
  • Examines the ways in which domestic abuse impacts on parenting characteristics.
  • Explores the roles and characteristics of children living with domestic abuse.
  • Looks at abusive teenage relationships.
  • Understanding Adolescent to Parent Abuse (APA).
Phoenix DAS Youth Team can also offer a range of bespoke packages to any group, organisation or service. We will work closely with you to design, develop and deliver workshops/training events tailored to your individual needs.