Wednesday, 20 June 2018


We came across this powerful poem about domestic abuse which has got us talking in the office. Although thought provoking some of us feel that this could be seen as victim blaming and we believe that the responsibility for change should sit with the perpetrator of the abuse. At Phoenix Domestic Abuse Services we deliver a perpetrator programme as well as victim interventions although we realise that not all perpetrators have the opportunity or motivation to change.
I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night, And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a
nightmare. I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry,
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today, and it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. And it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry,
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.

Tuesday, 19 June 2018

Give as you Live

Plan your summer entertainment via Give as you Live to entertain the kids during the summer holidays! Lots of things to do including days out at top Theme Parks and Go Ape Tribe or garden games from ebay and Argos. Everything can be purchased via Give as you Live which will then raise a free donation for us too!

Wednesday, 13 June 2018

The Diary Room

The Diary Room is an inflatable consultation structure that can be positioned anywhere, inside or out, shopping centres, youth clubs, schools, supermarkets, community centres, festivals, to name just a few… the Diary Room has the versatility to be used anywhere.
So what’s different from every other consultation tool out there? The Diary Room is a one of a kind innovation. Not only a practical and effective way of consulting with people, but service providers and decision makers can see real people giving real views on any subject.
To find out more or to book the diary room please call us on 01495 291202 or email us at

Tuesday, 12 June 2018

Reducing the Prevalence of Domestic Violence and Abuse.

Our Perpetrator Officer Lidia is currently at a conference today for Reducing the Prevalence of Domestic Violence and Abuse.

Monday, 11 June 2018

Powerful Pictures

 We came across these powerful photos and would love to get your comments on them 

Tuesday, 5 June 2018

Amazon Smile

Tripled donations with every qualifying purchase - from 15 to 29 June, AmazonSmile is tripling its donation rate. Support Phoenix Domestic Abuse Services by starting your shopping at

Friday, 1 June 2018


The following training courses are now available:
Friday 29th June - Understanding the Effects of Domestic Abuse on Children - Cost £50
Tuesday 17th July - Understanding Perpetrators of Domestic Abuse - Cost £50
Monday 13th August - Domestic Abuse Awareness Training - Cost FREE
All courses are a full day and learners will need to have completed the Domestic Abuse Awareness Training prior to attending any of the other courses.
For more information or to book your place please email or call the office and ask for Hannah on 01495291202.